tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30017746729491487412024-03-13T00:43:59.890-07:00The Celibacy ChroniclesThis Blog will chronicle my journey of celibacy this year as a Christian single, to encourage those who desire to do the same but don't know how or who struggle and fall. Or even for those who have no desire but may find interest in the subject matter. Periodic posts, candid, honest & transparent discussion about the difficulties of maintaining a pure life as a Christian/non Christian; discussing single life in general, do's & don'ts.Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-91225717403873019842014-05-06T14:18:00.001-07:002014-05-06T14:19:26.107-07:00Never be afraid of the journeyNever be afraid to do what God has called you to do. He will supply you with all you need to get the job done. I started this group a few years ago and feel blessed to help people in this area, encourage, edify.... God has blessed me tremendously in the process. I am now married and now starting a new business because I don't fear embarking on the journey any more. I started a new line of athletic wear called Full Armor Apparel... it can be found at w<a href="http://www.fullarmorapparel.com/">ww.fullarmorapparel.com</a> blog in fact inspired me, because it was the revelation that I had to put on the Full Armor of God in order to endure the process. Don't be afraid of the journeyBluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-22380396922229379552014-04-28T14:28:00.001-07:002014-04-28T14:28:24.048-07:00Calling you to shareI really want to continue this blog. I have been told it has helped many and the need is great for this type of forum. I started a group on facebook called Celibacy Chronicles, so you can join me there, but I would also like to ask that if any of you has a testimony to share please contact me and I will post it anonymously for you if you desire. <br />
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If you would like to contribute to this blog and be a help to the thousands who have read it, it think it would be great.<br />
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I also would like to interview anyone willing, anonymously of course for the book. This book will talk about the struggle of maintaining abstinence and the journey your either on or have faced in being delivered from some of the demons you face being single. <br />
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I look forward to hearing from you.... send me a messageBluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-66949680300289284042013-08-22T08:47:00.001-07:002013-08-22T08:47:19.838-07:00Sexual DysfunctionAre you celibate as a result of sexual & emotional dysfunction? Are you unable to connect with a person in a way that will foster a healthy relationship therefore avoid it? I think many do, what do you think?Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-91273439553006966732013-03-17T13:59:00.001-07:002013-03-17T13:59:29.193-07:00Testimonies of His power and Grace & MercyOur testimonies are important. Our stories are meant to be shared not compared. Mine is one in millions of it's kind, but this experience molded and shaped my life. In fact it had a great deal to do with my ability as a single woman to maintain abstinence, dignity, self respect and self worth. I saw no value in life or myself and gave away the treasure in the earthen vessel. God however by His grace and Mercy saw fit to restore me, heal me, make me whole. And so while I once was blind, now I see the value in me. I am sooooo grateful for what God has done in my life that I can't keep it to myself. I want the same for you no matter what the issue is. Healing and restoration is your portion in Christ. Be blessed family and please share if you think it may help someone. <br />
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<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TSpDRjRaBiA">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TSpDRjRaBiA</a>Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-44268638906545118642013-02-02T13:39:00.001-08:002013-02-02T13:39:59.321-08:00A closed mouth doesn't get fed<span class="userContent">You want to be strong and resilient and resist the cookie and the sausage, but we must pray to not enter into temptation. Never let anyone discourage you from Bible study and prayer. These are the most life-giving, Satan-resistant activities that you can do. Do you ever notice that you will find yourself most attacked in your desire to pray?.. hindered, tired, weary, almost incapable? This causes weakness and it starts by your forgetting to pray or not being disciplined and diligent in prayer. Giving God and occasional honorable mention or head nod or quick acknowledgment is NOT sufficient. So with that said your fruit will manifest based on how much you sow.... if you sow sparingly in prayer, then you shall reap sparingly in results. God didn't fail to answer, you failed to ask. #closedmouthdon'tgetfed.com</span>Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-11944483897721789022013-01-30T11:11:00.000-08:002013-01-30T11:11:29.022-08:00MomoriesI must extend my apologies for not having been here for a while and I'm sorry for being selfish. Last year was quite a year and I got married. Seemingly the end to this journey but in fact just another layer to what God would have me do. Although I am now no longer single, it does not hinder my understanding and ability to relate to those who are.... because of course I WAS THERE for a very long time. <br />
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I can still remember those days... for it was not that long ago that I struggled in my flesh and in my mind and my heart. IN FACT, I struggled up to the very day I said I DO... and you will too.<br />
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I struggled with being IN the relationship and operating in the relationship with the integrity and character I had so worked for and desired... I struggled with my flesh and being close to a man that I now wanted to love and marry, I remember struggling with longing up to the very day I said I do and it's quite normal. When you know what it feels like to be hugged, touched, kissed and long for that type of affection and interaction you WILL struggle with maintaining your distance. <br />
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It is only remembering that the battle is not ours but the Lords that will help you endure. <br />
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For me what helped was knowing that for once the relationship was right, well intended, and was leading to marriage rather then just another dead end.... I was so filled with love and joy and peace and reverence for God and what He had done for me that I didn't want to mess it up.<br />
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I had come to far to turn back or do things the wrong way. <br />
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You all have come so far, even if not perfect and having made a few mistakes along the way to turn around and go back to what you know will only hinder you, block you, hurt you.<br />
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Be willing to wait for what God has for you, it's well worth it.<br />
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with all my love I share because I care! <br />
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xoxox<br />
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Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-18578440893935690102013-01-30T11:00:00.002-08:002013-01-30T11:00:36.083-08:00Don't be blinded<span class="userContent">Ladies keep your cookie in the cookie jar and men keep your sausage to yourself until your married. Why you ask? Because that's the way God wants it. Doesn't sound fair, may not be easy, but God knows better then we know. The soulties you have developed as a result of your inability to control your flesh cause damage your hardly aware of. Every person you lay with, will increase your inability to TRULY connect to the person you are INTENDED to be with. It HINDERS your ability to even see that person. You can't recognize what is intended for you when you are blinded by temporary distractions.</span>Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-21437662769174363572012-08-15T10:37:00.003-07:002012-08-15T10:37:58.469-07:00VICTORY<h6 class="uiStreamMessage" data-ft="{"type":1,"tn":"K"}">
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<span class="userContent"><span style="font-size: large;">Today I encourage you to reach out to one another in love. Remembering, none of us has arrived. I can remember some pretty painful times as a single woman, struggling with my desires, giving into temptation, being dissapointed in myself feeling I had dissapointed my Lord. I remember going back to sin time and time again, feeling bound, feeling hopeless, worthless. I remember wishing how I could talk to someone who exhibited some understanding rather then condemming me or making me feel guilty or chastising me about sin as though they hadn't done it. It is with compassion, love, understanding & truth that you reach the lost and broken.... that truth not just being the scripture of choice, but the truth about you and your journey. I am a reflection of God's grace & mercey, healing & restorative power and so I reach out to you in understanding. If your struggling with being single, alone, your sexual drive, your self esteem, your selfworth, your ability to control your desires then I understand and am praying for you. I once was lost but now I'm found & I know you too can and will have the VICTORY! TODAY I COMMAND VICTORY IN YOUR LIFE!</span></span></div>
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Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-26854039733801328732012-05-31T14:54:00.002-07:002012-05-31T14:54:38.412-07:00PRAYER TO REMOVE THE ROOTS OF REBELLION<div class="subtitle">
Prayer to Remove the Roots of Rebellion</div>
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In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, I repent for all generational idolatry. <br />
I repent for all personal and generational rebellion, stubbornness, and disobedience that has contributed to witchcraft in my life and in my generational line.<br />
I repent for all envy and jealousy of the mind, physical bodies, and personalities of others. <br />
I repent for any worship of myself and any need of personal recognition. <br />
I repent for all envy and jealousy of the spiritual giftings and capacities of others.<br />
I repent for myself and for those in my generational line who did not guard the gates of the spiritual and physical senses.<br />
I repent for choosing my will above the will of the Lord.<br />
I choose to owe no one anything, but to love one another.<br />
I choose to cast off the work of darkness and to put on the armor of Light, the Lord Jesus Christ, and to make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lust.<br />
I choose to walk only according to the grace and anointing God has given to me.<br />
I choose to walk in unity with my brothers and sisters in the Lord. <br />
I choose to follow Christ, living a life of love, preferring others above myself.<br />
I choose to yield and surrender my personal rights so that I might serve the Lord wholeheartedly.<br />
I choose to be devoted to one another in brotherly love and to honor one another above myself. <br />
I will never be lacking in zeal, but will keep my spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. I will be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, and faithful in prayer. <br />
I will share with God's people who are in need. I will practice hospitality. I will bless those who persecute me. I will rejoice with those who rejoice and will mourn with those who mourn. I will live in harmony with other Believers. <br />
I will not be proud, but I will associate with people of low position. I will not be conceited. I will not repay evil for evil. I will have regard for the good things in sight of all men. I will live at peace with everyone. I will not take revenge on others.<br />
Lord, please now remove all ungodly spiritual beings and devices that have been empowered by my idolatry, rebellion, and jealousy and the idolatry, rebellion and jealousy of my ancestors.<br />
Lord, will You please disconnect me from any evil network and I break all ungodly ties between the abode of the enemy and myself. <br />
Lord, please remove the generational tree of the knowledge of good and evil.<br />
Lord, please break the cords of death that entangle me, the torrents of destruction that overwhelm me, the cords of Sheol that are coiled around me, and the snares of death that confront me.<br />
Lord, I now take back any godly anointing, energy, authority, finances, and health given away and perverted because of my sin and my ancestors' sin.<br />
Lord, will You set me as a seal upon Your heart, and as a seal upon Your arm, for Your Love is stronger than death.<br />
I declare that You Lord Jesus Christ is the head and He is Lord over all. <br />
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This prayer is based on Genesis 2, Deuteronomy 4:15-20, I Samuel 15:23, Psalm 18, Ezekiel 8:1-6, John 17, Romans 12:3,10-19, Romans 13, Ephesians 1:22, Ephesians 4:12-13.</div>Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-87599220222267801042012-05-24T12:18:00.002-07:002012-05-24T12:18:46.302-07:00HOW LONG ARE YOUR ARMS<div class="text_exposed_root text_exposed" id="id_4fbe864196b1f1013643561">
Funny this morningt I was thinking and wondering, does anyone remeber that play & the saying "Your arms are too short to box with God'? I love the saying and the play. What I considered in that message were two things. That our arms are not to short because God is a DISTANT God, but are arms are too short because we are just no MATCH for God. As we fight and struggle with Him, we just simply<span class="text_exposed_hide">...</span><span class="text_exposed_show"> are no match. I love boxing and the analogy is awesome. When one fighter has a shorter reach or armspan then the other, they (the shorter) are typically at a disadvantage. So stop trying to fight a battle you can't win. God is the one CONTENDER with whom you can throw in the towl and let HIM have all the control and still have victory! Stop fighting HIM family. ♥</span></div>Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-4666505227332665302012-04-17T09:23:00.000-07:002012-04-17T09:23:09.430-07:00Can of worms!I must admit i've been doing very well on this walk lately... exhibiting self control, really casting down my thoughts and to be honest not really thinking about sex like I used to. I remember a time when my thoughts were consumed with desire, lust and the thought of it. <br />
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I did however make an almost deadly mistake recently in a weak moment of hormonal rage! Yep I sure did. I was feeling kind a frisky... and I can't even tell you what came over me, when I decided to text an ex. I was having this memory of him for some reason and I allowed my thoughts to linger on a moment with him. So like a dummy I sent a text message to "say hey". You know those texts right? The ones that always lead to more. <br />
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Anyhow that text led to a phone conversation, an innocent one (right). We talked about old times, laughed, caught up then hung up.<br />
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Then it came.... a text from him later asking if he could come over to see me. SMH what did I do!<br />
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I know exactly what I did.. I did what I should never have done, I opend the proverbial can of worms.<br />
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I am thankful though that I have built a resolve and strength to resist, because I easily declined the offer, though I may have even considered it briefly. I then apologized for even contacting him.<br />
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See this is the reason you should delete old numbers..... <br />
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Usually I get lots of unsolicited text messages, calls or even random appearances at my door.... now those things I can't control... but I made the error this time. <br />
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Those are the things we have to really consider on this walk. We conciously set ourselves up for failure.<br />
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The moment passed and I passed the test... awe the Lord is good and faithful to give you a route of escape.<br />
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Can you imagine if I had allowed him to come over? <br />
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Note to self another reason to not remain friends with ex boyfriends..<br />
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Yep the sausage was callin but I didn't answer. <br />
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I know I'm not the only one this happens to right? ****big grinBluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-86776812127268672992012-04-12T11:59:00.001-07:002012-04-12T12:04:49.381-07:00Crucify the Flesh do you know what that means?<span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="font-size: medium;"></span></span><br />
<div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">KEEP YOUR SAUSAGE AND COOKIES TO YOURSELF UNTIL MARRIAGE AND CRUCIFY THE FLESH. </span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">I have provided some great scriptures below to help in understanding this effort. </span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">By specifying these works of the flesh and fruits of the Spirit, the apostle directs us both what we are to avoid and oppose and what we are to cherish and cultivate, so he informs us that this is the sincere care and endeavour of all Christians: And those that are Christ’s,<em> </em>says he (those who are Christians indeed, not only in show and profession, but in sincerity and truth), have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. </span></div><div align="left"><br />
</div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">WE have not yet obtained a complete victory over it (the flesh); We still have flesh as well as Spirit in us, and that has its affections and lusts, which continue to give us disturbance, but as it does not now reign in our bodies or it shouldn't...we are seeking the utter ruin and destruction of it, and to put it to death, which our Lord Jesus underwent for our sakes.</span></div><div align="left"><br />
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<strong><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">Romans 6:5-14</span></strong></div><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><span style="font-size: xx-small;"></span></span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">And those who are Christ’s <b>have crucified the flesh </b>with its passions and desires.</span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">I have been <b>crucified with Christ</b>; it is <b>no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me</b>; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.</span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">For if we have been united together in the likeness of His death, certainly we also shall be in the likeness of His resurrection, 6knowing this, that <b>our old man was crucified </b>with Him, that the body of sin might be done away with, that we <b>should no longer be slaves of sin</b>. 7For he who has died has been <b>freed from sin</b>. 8Now if we died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with Him, 9knowing that Christ, having been raised from the dead, dies no more. Death no longer has dominion over Him. 10For the death that He died, He died to sin once for all; but the life that He lives, He lives to God. 11Likewise you also, <b>reckon yourselves to be dead indeed to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus our Lord</b>. 12Therefore <b>do not let sin reign in your mortal body</b>, that you should obey it in its lusts. 13And <b>do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin</b>, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. 14For <b>sin shall not have dominion over you, </b>for you are not under law but under grace.</span></span><br />
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</strong></div></span></span><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>1. Christ’s Work is already Done: Greek verb tense indicates something that was done which has</strong></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>ongoing consequences in the future.</strong></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">John 19:30 – So when Jesus had received the sour wine, He said, <span style="color: red;"><span style="color: red;">“</span></span><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: red;">It is finished</span></span></span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: red;">!” </span></span>And bowing His</span></strong></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>head, He gave up His spirit.</strong></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div><span style="font-size: small;"><strong><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">Romans 6:6-11 – …<i>knowing this, that our old man was crucified with Him</i>… </span><i><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">Likewise you also,</span></i></strong></span><br />
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<div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>2. Healing is an Ongoing Process: Look at the Apostle Paul as our model/example</strong></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>1Corinthians 15:31 – <i>I die daily</i></strong></span></span></div><div align="left"><strong><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"><i><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></i> </span><span style="font-size: small;"></span></strong><br />
<div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Romans 7:19 – The good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice.</strong></span></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>Now if I do what I will not to do, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me.</strong></span></div><div align="left"><strong><br />
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<div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>2Corinthians 12:7 – And lest I should be exalted above measure by the abundance of the</strong></span></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>revelations, a thorn in the flesh was given to me, a messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I be exalted </strong></span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>above measure. 8Concerning this thing I pleaded with the Lord three times that it might depart from </strong></span><strong><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">me. 9And He said to me, </span><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: red;"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in</span></span></span></span> </strong><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><strong><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">Matthew 5:29-30 – </span><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: red;"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is</span></span></span><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: red;"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">whole body to be cast into</span></span></span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: red;">. </span></span>30</span><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: red;"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more</span></span></span><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: red;"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">whole body to be cast into hell</span></span></span><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: red; font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">.</span></span></strong></span></div><div align="left"><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your </strong></span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>hell </strong></span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your </strong></span></div><div align="left"><strong><br />
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<div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>2Timothy 3:1-7 – But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: 2For men will be</strong></span></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents,</strong></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>unthankful, unholy, 3unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of</strong></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">good, 4traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, </span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">5having a form of</span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">. And from such people turn away! 6For of this sort are those who </span></strong></span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>godliness but denying its power </strong></span><span style="font-size: small;"><strong><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">creep into households and make captives of gullible women loaded down with sins, </span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">led away by </span></strong></span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>various lusts, 7always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.</strong></span></div><div align="left"><strong><br />
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<div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>1 John 1:9-10 – If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.</strong></span></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Revelation 1:5-6 – To Him who loved us and washed us from our sins in His own blood, 6and has</strong></span></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>made us kings and priests to His God and Father, to Him be glory and dominion forever and ever.</strong></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>Amen.</strong></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">Revelation 7:14 – </span><i><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">These are the ones who come out of the great tribulation, and washed their robes and made them white in the blood of the Lamb.</span></i></strong></span><br />
<div align="left"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">Revelation 12:11 – </span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">And they overcame him by the <em>blood of the Lamb</em> and by the word of their</span></strong></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;"><strong>testimony, and they did not love their lives to the death.</strong></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"></span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>2Corinthians 12:9 – <i><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: red;">“My grace is sufficient for you, for </span></span><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: red;">My strength is made perfect in weakness</span></span><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: red;">.”</span></span></i></strong></span></span><br />
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<div align="left"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">· Satan comes to make war whether you like it or not – Jesus only comes if you ask Him</span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">· It is no contest when Jesus meets Satan head-to-head – Jesus always wins</span></strong></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Times;">Easier read then done??? Yes indeed, but it should be our pursuit as His children. </span></span></div><br />
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<div align="left"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;">Galatians 2:20</span></div>Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-2922754942300621552012-02-07T18:54:00.000-08:002012-02-07T18:54:53.188-08:00STOP PLAYING WITH FIRELadies and gentlemen, if your really serious about abstaining keep the opposite sex out of your home. I mean really who are you fooling? If they are not REALLY JUST A FRIEND!!!!! Then always meet in a neutral place... public, controlled setting. Seriously..... I mean how do you expect to have a grown ass man in your house on your couch and not want to kiss, snuggle, touch, and eventually have a taste of some sausage when it starts getting hot. <br />
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Unless you have been walking the walk for a long time, who are you kidding by inviting him over for dinner, just dinner right? Or going to his place for dinner... then drinking some wine, getting a foot massage (dang that sounds great) next thing you know a back massage, a neck massage, a tongue massage. LOL for real people!!<br />
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So while you might be fooling yourself, your not fooling God... cuz He can see what's in your heart and knows just how far you will go before you go there.<br />
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A man or woman of integrity will agree and make every effort to keep you both out of the frying let alone the fire. <br />
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If your not dating a person who understands that then you shouldn't be dating that person. Just keeping it real and if you wanna be real with yourself and your journey you will admit the truth in my statements.<br />
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I have never been able to invite a man over to my house for an evening and not have him want sex, and me pretty much want it too, unless I just wasn't really that interested in him. <br />
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So lets not put ourselves in a position to fail K Pumpkin???? LOL <br />
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Please share your thoughts... do you agree or disagree? <br />
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Smooches!Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-28863349392971428432012-02-07T18:40:00.000-08:002012-02-07T18:40:40.676-08:00Celibacy 101I wonder how many of those who read this are celibate or want to be... if so please share you journey and insights with me and to those who read. Knowledge is power and there is also power in numbers..... strength and resilience in a common bond.<br />
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Celibacy is not just a physical surrender, it's mental, emotional, spiritual and profound. It will change your life, your perspective on life, love, relationships, self, God. <br />
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It's a very powerful journey and I encourage you to grow closer to God and indulge your flesh less. Watch the transformation of self. You will be amazed.<br />
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It's about so much more then just not having sex. That mentality will have you stuck and operating from your lower nature. This journey is about transcending to higher heights.<br />
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You can actually learn how to build and increase intimacy in the romantic relationship you desire by first mastering your flesh by yourself, then add that special person to your life who is respecting of your choice to abstain till marriage. You can learn true intimacy and how to love each other beyond the sexual connection. That deep meaningful connection that speaks to forever instead of for right now<br />
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Put God first and you will forever be better for the experience, this I PROMISE YOU. Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-20694670975533624042012-01-27T11:41:00.000-08:002012-01-27T11:41:31.417-08:00LETS HAVE A COOK OUTI wanted to post some of my facebook pledges which I have dubbed the cook out pledges. I call them that because typically I relate sex to food in a lot of my posts... to add humor & for analogy. So please feel free to stop by and read them and take the pledges as you see fit at any time. If you have any questions please feel free to comment any time. I hope you enjoy and take the pledges with me.<br />
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PLEDGES: <br />
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">COOK OUT PLEDGES</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">All my single ladies, hold up your hand and repeat after me. Lord My body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and I desire to keep it clean. You made sex for us to enjoy father, but for married people to enjoy. Though I have already partaken of the sausage in the past, I realize I can no longer and will fast. I am on a sausage fast until the right man, deserving and ordained by you has taken my ...hand in marriage. I will do my best to pass every test, but most of all I will make a conscious effort to avoid situations that will cause me to stumble. I won't go to the meat market knowing I shouldn't eat meat on this fast. Father, guide, protect, cover me and vale me during this time of abstinence and obedience until such a time as you see fit to reveal me to the man ordained for me. Show me how to manage my desires, deliver me from any bondage I may be unaware of, soul ties that need to be broken and help to cast down every imagination or thought that would exalt it's self against you Lord. I ask for your guidance, protection, strength and peace in the Mighty name of Jesus! All those in agreement say????</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">All my single men hold up your hand and repeat after me. Lord my body is the temple of the Holy Spirit & I desire to keep it clean. You made sex for us to enjoy father, but for married people to enjoy. Though I have already partaken of the cookies, cuz Lord you know I love cookies, muffins and all sorts of goodies, I realize I can no longer and will wait for dinner before I have dessert. I am... a man of God, who desires to do your will and will no longer take what does not belong to me rightfully, I will fast and pray. I will do my best to pass every test, but most of all I will make a conscious effort to avoid situations that will cause me to stumble and I will not grumble. I will fast from cookies and goodies and pleasant bread of all kinds father. I will avoid the candy store knowing I have a sweet tooth and too many sweets will rot my teeth, For I am often like a kid when in a candy store, wanting every variety of goodies that presents itself to me. Father Veil my eyes, protect me from those whom would try to tempt me unnaturally. Vail my eyes accept to the woman you have ordained for me. Show me how to manage my desires, deliver me from my lustful thoughts and imaginations that would exalt themselves against you Lord. I ask for your guidance, protection, strength and peace in the mighty name of Jesus! All those men in a agreement say????</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">All my single ladies.... put your hands up! Now solemnly swear that in 2012 you will close your legs and your mouths & open your ears & your eyes. Listen more then you speak, so a man can tell you who he is. Hear with clarity so that you believe him when he tells you and watch his actions to see if they match his words. People always tell you who they are actually and in few words... we just rarely believe them.... but what speaks louder than words are actions... so when he treats you with honor and respect it’s a YAY! But when he treats you like a stray, it's a NAY!!!</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">All my single ladies put your hands up! Now repeat after me. 2012 is a new year, a year of change. I will not succumb to the sausage in 2012. My love for sausage will not over take me in 2012 and I will prepare for my mate by waiting. Celibacy is not a crime and my desire to abstain is Godly not foolish as some would say. I will not allow the frustration of men or myself to compel me to compromise what I know is right in the sight of God. My body is the temple of the Holy Spirit & with His help I can control and manage my desire for the sausage. I will wait for dinner (my husband) and not snack in between meals. Any man that does not respect that displays hostility not only towards me but God and is not the man for me. All those in agreement say?</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Single ladies put your hands up. Now repeat after me. I will keep my cookies in the cookie jar, no cookie monsters allowed. Cookie monsters will eat your cookies leaving nothing but crumbs then move on to the next jar. I will reserve my cookies for the man who understands dinner comes before dessert.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Single ladies say this with me! I will no longer participate in relationships of convenience out of neediness. I will no longer give my cookies away to a man just because I find him moderately attractive, he pays me a few compliments, buys me dinner and manages to participate in mediocre conversation. Although my desire for companionship is natural my inability to wait for legitimate companionship is dysfunctional. I will no longer participate in dysfunction.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Single folks say it with me. I will not allow my sexual desires to control me I will control them. My desire to please myself will not supersede my desire to please God anymore. I will save my cookie/sausage for my future wife/husband. Now hold up your lighters and say *****my name is _________ and I am a HO no MO!</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">A single folks, waiting for your mate is difficult but there is power in self-control. We are not children. So in the waiting using self-control is key to receiving your blessing. If you are truly desiring to please God then you WILL control yourself. He has prepared a table before you for dinner so don't spoil your dinner by eating snacks...</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><br />
</div>Which pledge will you take today? :-)Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-7622012166246329522012-01-20T11:22:00.000-08:002012-01-20T11:22:31.123-08:00SEX EDUCATION<div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #073763; font-size: medium;">Today I wanted to share an article I thought was very fitting. Please enjoy</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #073763; font-size: medium;"></span> </div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #073763; font-size: medium;">LOVE BLUE</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #073763; font-size: medium;"></span> </div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #073763; font-size: medium;">The Paradox of Sex Education Unveiled</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
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<div style="text-align: justify;">Welcome once again to “Truth for the Journey!” In the last article we discussed the subject of teenage promiscuity and the premature “sexualisation” of our young people; violating their intended time (Eccl 3:11). Today as we look further into this, we can see the huge irony or contradiction that emerges around this whole subject. For example, those things set in place to “aid and assist” our young people with advice about “safe sex” actually opens then up to greater heart ache in later life. <br />
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Take for instance any young person, who has been encouraged into promiscuity and sexual activity who then commits to become a Christian and eventually marries another Christian. For a while everything seems great, until this same person who once enjoyed such sexual freedom as a “former-fornicator,” now finds themselves experiencing all kinds of sexual “hang-ups.” Past experiences and comparisons haunt their mind - with flashbacks and shameful memories. In addition they find that guilt and condemnation now “shut-them-off” to sex, when they should be enjoying “free and unhindered passion” with their ordained partner. Needless to say such “shutting down” sexually causes the couple great heart ache and frustration. <br />
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It’s evident then that two basic “lies” prevail. The first is aimed at the single non-Christian, “forget abstinence and restraint, live life while you are still young..!” The second is aimed at the young married Christian couple, “Pull yourselves together and don’t be so lustful. Sex is sinful – have some restraint..!” This sells the message that sexual ‘all-out-ness’ is right for the “fornicator” but wrong, shameful (perhaps even, “out of the will of God...”) for the believer! Listening to either lie will rob these youngsters of the beauty and blessing intended for sex. <br />
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In addition to all this, the young Christian wife gets pushed this idea; “Hey, hold on here don’t you know that you don’t ‘have’ to have sex whenever ‘he’ wants it... who does he think he is anyway. You don’t have to submit to ‘him’ – don’t give yourself to ‘him,’ your body belongs to ‘you’ ...” etc. Which is directly out of line with scripture (see 1Peter 3:1-7; Eph 5: 22-33, Col 3: 18-20) For the Christian marriage - the couple, out of a loving and intimate relationship - submit to one another in love (Ehp 5:21 KJV). <br />
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My wife tends to prefer the Message Bible for this particular scripture because it takes “religion” out of it. So let’s take a look at Eph 5:21-33, “Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another. Wives understand and support your husbands... The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing... wives should likewise submit to their husbands. Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting... His words evoke her beauty... that is how husbands ought to love their wives... loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband (Eph 5: 21-33 The Message Bible).<br />
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To continue isn’t it funny that a lot of young girls today are being enticed, seduced and encouraged to “submit” themselves - through promiscuity - to their boyfriends or male admirers, without reserve! Without objection and dazed by promiscuity they “submit their bodies” to lust through “random” partners via premature sexuality and adulthood! <br />
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Then with the seduction of nightclubs and fun bars, where fornication is “normalcy” and promoted through seductive and atmospheric music with the drunken haze that surrounds it all! “Submission” is never an issue in such settings where scantily clad and provocative young ladies submit their bodies quite readily to lust! After all “fornication” is more about seeking the fulfilment of one’s “own” pleasure rather than seeking to “give” it meaningfully to someone else. <br />
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It is an accepted fact today that most young men and women who go to night clubs and such places, are going with the intention of sex. Especially young women earn this reputation and have it taken for granted that if they go to such places they are “prepared” for sex. They dress sexy, they yield to the sexy atmosphere and in addition they “fuel” this with drugs and alcohol to help “enhance” the mood and “numb” any youthful inhibitions. <br />
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But what is encouraged while in the world is then discouraged in marriage. Sexual readiness is suddenly seen as something “else” and as a result “spontaneity” rapidly goes out of the window! In other words, outside of the drunken haze and night club atmosphere; and back in the mundane “status-quo” of everyday living - couples find themselves “stifled” and no longer “free.” ALL THIS MEANS THAT THEY HAVE BEEN “SCHOOLED” AND “PREPARED” FOR FORNICATION BUT NOT FOR MARRIAGE! This travesty makes it very difficult for them to know how to respond within a different set of boundaries – called marriage. In fact everything they learn at school undermines the institute of marriage. The big green light for premarital sex and promiscuity sets them up for a fall when it comes to marriage. What is satan’s agenda? To “destroy” society as we know it. <br />
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So as we apply this to ourselves and not just to the youth of our society, we can see that this entire subject is entirely on its head! In other words “upside down” because of an almighty “clash” or “conflict” in interests. The devil’s says, “Be free in fornication!” while God’s says, “Be free only in marriage.” Yet the truth is that for many who indulged in fornication before marriage– have difficulty being free inside marriage. The reality is that what the devil calls freedom is really bondage. However a person can be set free from their past; through Christ old things can “pass-away” and all things can be made “new” in Him – including God’s “best” being restored to them (2 Cor 5:17). <br />
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In God we are free. There is no bondage in Christ. An important realization for some folks is that, while the spirit of this world belches out, “Have sex without restraint...” This also is actually God’s “command” yet “within marriage” – as marriage is the only ordained and correct setting for “safe sex!” That’s right, you read right! Without restraint is God’s command “within” marriage. Think about it, we were told not to “with hold” ourselves from one another..!” Again the reality is this - everything that the world is seeking for in sex, is available right in the midst of what God ordained. And what the world considers ‘sexual liberation’ usually involves much bondage. On the other hand – those who operate in the fullness of what God has ordained for them are the ones who experience true sexual freedom! <br />
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Now for some folks this is precisely where the struggle “begins!” Why? Because the devil has managed to convince many that it’s wrong to be “sexy” and “godly” at the same time! This of cause throws an enormous “wet-blanket” on the subject of sex. However sex was created for pleasure not for shame, guilt or regret – Hallelujah.<br />
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Perverting generations before they ever get the chance to enjoy marriage in the way God intended is Satan’s way of, ‘stealing, killing and destroying’ our inheritance – God’s best for his children in ALL things. He looks to confuse our perception of the Father’s highest and best, in this important area. <br />
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The serpent’s nature is always to seduce and tempt. But it does not stop there. He also indulges in “condemning” and “accusing.” His master plan is to “seduce” and to “lure” people into sin – once they respond and are led away of their own lush (see James 1:14) he proceeds to enjoy tormenting them with the guilt and shame of their actions afterwards..! As a liar and the father of lies satan has always made such a huge deal out of sex. Why? Because it poses such a threat to him and if he can successfully convince us that something pure is perverse – this means we can no longer enjoy it. Conversely if he can convince the world that only “perversity” is enjoyable and purity is boring – then they stay aloof. But we know deception is his game – and we are enlightened amen! <br />
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Finally in closing – there can be no mistake - we have been ordained to live life to the full and more abundantly – this excludes no area of life. In Christ we are free in all things. Amen! </div><br />
<div align="center"><strong><span style="color: #000066;">PRAYER FOR THE DAY</span></strong><br />
Father I am Yours. My body is Yours. I fear nothing but You! I live in the liberality that comes only by Your Spirit. I am not liberal as the world calls it. But I am liberal by Your Spirit. I am free because of Your Son - in EVERY area of my life. Amen. </div><br />
<div align="center"><span style="color: #000066;"><strong>CONFESSION OF THE DAY</strong></span><br />
Those the Son set free are free in deed. I have complete freedom in every area of my life. I want no “hang-ups” and I chose to be free in the area of sex. The world feeds us with a false perception of sex. But everything that You ordained for us to enjoy is pure in its origin. I glorify You the Giver of life and all good things. Nothing is perverse in You and to the pure all things are pure (Titus 1:15) Hallelujah. </div>Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-80700328557162752702012-01-16T14:17:00.000-08:002012-01-16T14:17:18.455-08:00YES I LOVE SEX I keep getting asked this question: DO YOU LIKE SEX? <br />
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Because of my stance on abstinence apparently the consensus is that I don't like sex. Why is that even an assumption let alone the first assumption or conclusion because a woman or a man desires to take a stance on purity? <br />
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Why must I dislike sex or have sexual issues to have made the decision to adhere to the standard my Father in heaven has mad clear we should adhere to if we desire to be in His will?<br />
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Let me lay down a few scriptures for you to go read and marinate on. <br />
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Romans 12:1, God apparently believes it's reasonable for us to give our bodies to him... but somehow we don't I guess.<br />
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1 Cor 6:18 We don't feel the need to do this for some reason though right? We like to justify our behavior and needs. <br />
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Let me make this perfectly clear to everyone who cares to know.......... I fricken love sex!!!!!!! I enjoy it, I want it, I crave it, I wish I could have it right now. But guess what? I'm not an animal that can not control my urges and desires.... I used to be, but I'm not any more.<br />
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Sex should be special, not casual and should not be had between two people who are not in covenant with one another. So while you ladies and gentlemen sleep with each other to get your momentary joy and satisfaction, you ignore the emptiness that follows when there is nothing that follows.<br />
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So trust me when I say I do not abstain and promote abstinence because I don't like sex or have an issue with sex. If I were bold enough I would give you the name and number of my ex and let him tell you. HA!!! Bad girl Lisa bad girl!!!!... but on a real note... I am abstinent because I get the revelation of how important it is for me and how important it is to God. Obedience is my desire and motive.<br />
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My connection with God is real and it's serious and I can no longer vex His spirit which lives in me... I can no longer tolerate the separation from God that I feel when I have sex with a man that is not my husband.<br />
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To whom much is given, much is required and God has given me a lot and is requiring a lot of me. And the sacrifice is REASONABLE for me. <br />
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It may not seem reasonable to you or others, but you have no idea what being clean, and obedient feels like if you can say that without guilt.<br />
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Folks love to hear about the goodness of God, but hate to hear the truth when it comes to what is required of us as living testimonies of His goodness.<br />
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Our goal in Christ should be to attain his Character, not His perfection.... and His character is attainable if you make the effort.<br />
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Conquering the flesh is the constant goal in this walk, renewing the mind and getting rid of the old thought pattern. <br />
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Come on people we can do better and be better. Don't project your issues on me when I desire to be right... I have no issues with sex. I love sex, sex is beautiful, feels great and I can't wait to have lots of it. But I have decided after many years of giving myself to all the wrong people to wait for the right one and have my relationship ordained by God. It is what it is. <br />
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For those of you who desire the same, I encourage you. Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-59480166733792038092012-01-10T09:18:00.000-08:002012-01-10T11:58:03.771-08:00New Year REVELATIONS not resolutions. STOP GIVING IT UP!!!!!!Good morning single ladies & gentlemen...... It was heavy on my heart this morning after meditation last night to encourage you to effect change. Change begins with self, not trying to fix others. So while we say things like there are no good men/women out there, or all the good men/wpmen are taken you actually speak into existence your thoughts. The truth is your experience with men/women is what you have made it. Ladies, A man can't do to you, what you don't allow. (not speaking of things forced) So stop allowing things in your life that are less then the standard you claim to desire. <br />
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Stop putting up with crap, drama, lies, casual sex encounters and blaming HIM/HER... Blame yourself for allowing, then ask yourself why you do. When you get to the ROOT of the issue you can then change it. <br />
Ladies in particular, how different would the world be if women possesed the true virtue God meant for us to possess? Men would be forced to adhere to the standard now wouldn't they? While men are very responsible for their own transgressions, as women we claim to want equality & power... and that starts with taking your fare share of the responsibility. <br />
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I got a call from an ex last night....... someone I had a serious soultie with at one time and I new it was a test. His treatement of me long ago was digusting to say the least, but my allowance of it was worse. What made me feel so wonderful was the ease with which I was able to dismiss his attempt at lurring me into his presence with lies and seduction and empty promises.<br />
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It was easy because the last few years have been a growth process and a soul searching journey of self. I place no blame on anyone for my life or it's outcome. <br />
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I said this a week ago on facebook and spoke to a couple of friends as well about the fact that if you desire to get on the right track and abstain from sex especially...... STOP DATING. Stop putting yourself in a position for failure. Being alone does not have to equal lonely and the solitude will benefit you in ways you will have to experience to truly understand...... REVELATION will come in that solitude. You will find yourself, you will find that God is waiting for you. He will reveal the roots, the issues, He will cleanse and deliver you family. He will make you fit for the mate you desire. <br />
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Stop allowing garbage in..... stop dealing with people who have bad intentions... and learn to discern the difference. Ladies stop just listening to words and pay attention to actions!<br />
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If they dont' line up with each other then he is not being real. Stop falling for the okey dokey, settling for mediocre conversation and opening your legs to some dude because he told you that you were beautiful and baught you dinner.. hell if he even did that before you spread them like butter on toast for him to take what God gave you for your husband. Breath that in and accept the responsibility for your actions, then cry and get the REVELATION that you deserve better and are worth more. <br />
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There is no temptation new to man, so we all face them... but we can avoid them.<br />
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Jesus is an amazing listner... speak to Him... ask Him to help you change those things that are not fitting of a man or woman of God. Ask Him to help you develop HIS character. The peace you will gain is worth more then all the treasures of this world.<br />
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This is the second year of my "chronicled" journey of celibacy and sexual abstainence..... it has gotten easier and I am in an awesome place right now. I desire to motivate you to that same place. I have stumbled along the way so I don't want you to think I'm perfect, but I have gotten up, asked for forgiveness, RECEIVED IT! and moved on with even more determination. The growth has been tremendous and I feel worthy of the title "woman of God". I also now feel worthy of a true "man of God" who demonstrates character & attributes of virtue and righteousness. I now don't feel like a hypocrite. The tests and trials are hardly over, but I truly feel better prepared to face them at this point. Put on your armor family! Step back from the very thing that is causing you to stumble so you can put on your armor. You can't protect yourself when you just keep taking hits and getting wounded without healing before you go out again. So my word for today is stop dating, step back, evalutate, enjoy the solitude & seek God. Read your bible, study, put on your armor, guard your heart. When your fully prepared, healed, delivered and whole you can go back out and start dating again... guaranteed you will attract different people into your life and find the right person for you.<br />
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Love you Family!Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-30973819780763913002011-12-27T15:17:00.000-08:002012-12-14T14:47:34.330-08:00Fallen Angel my last post for 2012<h6 class="uiStreamMessage" data-ft="{"type":1}" style="font-weight: normal;">
<span style="font-size: small;"><span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}">I wanted to end the year with some basic truth, transparency & wisdom i've learned and know I should share. This year has been a ruff year, but not so ruff I couldn't survive. I had some ruff times and some good times and some learning moments on this walk of abstainence this year. I made some mistakes, put myself in some bad situations & learned a lot. This Angel has fallen a few times in her lifetime but still I rise. </span></span></h6>
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True repenetence dictates that you have a change of mind, heart, attitude & direction which I can say I have truly repented of sexual sin and been delivered from unnatural desires, overactive imagination & soul ties that stem from sin & past experiences. Can you repent more then once? Yep I have... I've managed to do well for several months or a couple of years then fall. I can't say it won't happen again either. I can only say that I am doing my best. </div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}">Challenges and tough times are faced by all at some point. It's how you handle them that matters. It's in the roughest times that your true character, strength and resilience have an opportunity to show. Truth for the journey is that pride will get you no where, humility goes a long way, and trusting God is imperative.</span></span></h6>
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Sex is meant for marriage and your inability to control your sexual urges is not due to hormones but your spiritual walk, lack of deliverence and failure to renew your mind daily. Grow up in Christ! It makes all the difference in the world.</div>
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Sex should never control you, you should control it. We all need it & want it, but what should superced your desire to satisfy your flesh is your desire to please God.</div>
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God understands what you want and need, He's just smarter then you are and knows your not ready for it.</div>
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Stop asking God to take away your urges and desires & ask Him to help you manage them. </div>
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Stop wanting to get married because you want sex... marriage is not just for sex. Your lack of self control will have you married to the wrong person and distruction can soon follow.</div>
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While single and waiting to meet that right person, prepare for marriage... allow God to prepare you. Allow God to work out of you those things that are not of HIM and work IN the things that are. His yoke is light.</div>
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Some of us wouldn't know a good spouse if we saw one and really need to step back and take a good look at past decisions and those things clouding our vision so we can see who God has intended for us. </div>
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In this year ahead really focus on your relationship with God and stop focusing on whether or not this person or that person is your husband/wife. Stop focusing on how horny you are. Really you shouldn't be thinking about sex all the time and if you are, you have way to much time on your hands and have failed to take on the spiritual nature of your father...... </div>
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Walking in the spirit and not the flesh is key and bringing our bodies under subjetion to the Holy Spirit is imperative.</div>
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Ladies and gentlemen respect yourselves & each other and lead each other into righteousness not temptation. </div>
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Men you are the head, take that position with integrity and stop using your lower nature as an excuse. If a woman tries to seduce you, be willing to say no. Be willing to restore her & keep her when she can't keep herself. Be willing to walk in integrity and walk away from a woman who is not your wife. Be willing to say no and recognize you are not to take what is not rightfully yours and will not be rightfully yours until you have married her. </div>
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What I pray for everyone reading is that in the new year you will walk in healing, wholenss & deliverence in the mighty name of Jesus. That you will consider God in all that you do. That you will have eyes to see, and ears to hear what God is saying to you in 2012. That integrity, character & virtue will be your garments in 2012... no more compromising yourself and others. </div>
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Be blessed family and if you fell this year, God is faithful to forgive. Get up dust it off and keep it pushin. You will be better in 2012. </div>
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Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-14510180348405426362011-08-03T10:19:00.000-07:002011-08-03T10:19:21.404-07:00ARE WOMEN REALLY THAT PICKY?<span data-jsid="text"></span><br />
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<span data-jsid="text">Women need to re learn what their position is and embrace it, while men need to re-learn what theirs is and hold it without ego but love as Christ loves the church. Men need to return to the church in greater numbers so they can be filled with the Holy Spirit of God. Women are crying our for this. I for one will just continue to hold my possition in intercession praying for an outpouring on our men so that they will return to their rightful positions and bring balance back to us women. The bible does say that we will become lovers of self and men will refuse to marry. Men refuse to marry because they no longer have to work, cuz women give it away.</span><br />
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I am single, far from superficial.... have never looked for money, always looked for Godly values in men and that seems to be hard to find in men these days...<span class="text_exposed_hide">...</span><span class="text_exposed_show"> this is a core issue with both men and women these days... values have changed a lot, even among the so called people of God. I either run into the man who seems to be the hearer and not the doer, or he is so anal spiritually, yes I said it that you can't have a conversation.... We need help Lord!</span>Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-65406656729303928242011-07-02T18:19:00.000-07:002011-07-02T18:19:41.025-07:00CELIBACY BLUES<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen='allowfullscreen' webkitallowfullscreen='webkitallowfullscreen' mozallowfullscreen='mozallowfullscreen' width='320' height='266' src='https://www.youtube.com/embed/6rOHmAb75O0?feature=player_embedded' frameborder='0'></iframe></div>Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-72034183269362077672011-06-18T19:05:00.000-07:002011-06-18T20:02:40.396-07:00What's the Harm?<span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}">I am convinced as the people of God, we often do far more harm to each other as brothers & sisters of the faith, then the world could ever do. We sabotage, compete, backbite ummm that list could go on. God said you will know them by their fruit, their love for one another. I ask you, what does your fruit look like?</span><br />
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Greater harm is done to the faith, because it is a betrayal and more hurtful when ever the offense comes from "family" agreed?. Nothing hurts more then when your family hurts you. This is why people in the church are so wounded..... via pastors, fellow parishioners.... Christ bled, so we wouldn't have to... yet we wound one another constantly. We are to sharpen one another, not stab. So lets work on our love walk & our integrity as saints.<br />
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<div class="text_exposed_root text_exposed" id="id_4dfb808633ea90c03592828">In this walk of celibacy, which hasn't been easy, I have been respected more by men who were NOT Christians as they walked away in honesty saying that the thought of abstaining from sex was not one they will consider, versus some men of God, who scoffed at me, did not take it serious<span class="text_exposed_show">, were not on the same page, and actually challenged me. Some have even gone as far as to be physically aggressive, knowing that the pressure of physical stimulation will often cause a person to break. I have been both angered and saddened by this. I know women do it to men as well so there is no partiality here. But we have to do better family.</span><br />
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<span class="text_exposed_show">As men and women of God, the last thing we should be doing is causing one another to stumble, no matter what the area.... so lets try to at the very least let those who desire to have standards have them without the pressure of coercion. Those who don't desire to hold the Godly standard should have no trouble what so ever finding others who are on the same page as they are....... so at least keep a clean conscious when it comes to having affected the life of another brother or sister with your lack of discipline. Ouch this stings a little.... a tough pill to swallow... but you know I speak truth. I have never been one to make excuses or condone mess but i'm just sayin, it's one thing to do your own dirt, just don't drag others into it with you.....I own what belongs to me and try to be better..... so I desire to help others do the same. If this has been you...... ask God to forgive you for those you may have caused to stumble no matter what the area.... God is merciful and He loves us unconditionally but He wants us to be better to each other. </span></div>Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-14130078294349016492011-05-17T17:52:00.000-07:002011-05-17T17:54:29.980-07:00What Happens When We Fall?I know it's been a while since I posted...not much is going on in my world so I haven't been terribly inspired lately. In some ways that is a good thing, the quiet has been nice for a change. It's funny how you can get used to chaos and almost not know what to do with yourself when your world isn't full of it. <br />
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I consider the quiet a serious indication that deliverance is mine. I don't quite look at sex the same way and don't think about it much any more. The longer I go without it the easier it gets.... until of course hormones kick in... but even then....... I don't focus on the need to satisfy the desire as much as I do now manage it via exercise and other things to occupy my thoughts. That is the reason I suggested that you not ask God to take away the desire, but show you how to "MANAGE" it. <br />
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The key to your deliverance is the REVELATION. This happens at different times for everyone. You can hear the same scripture over and over again and not get the true revelation of how it applies to your life and how much it can change your life. The scripture for example "your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. Heard it often....read it often.. but I didn't really GET (live it) it until about 2 years ago.<br />
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What happens when we FALL.? When we fall into sin...... it causes a separation between us and God. The Holy Spirit dwells within us and so when we commit such a sin as sex... it vexes the Holy Spirit and causes Him to leave our presence. God is Holy and will not be in the midst of sin, and since the HOLY SPIRIT is the Spirit of God... it stands to reason... he's gonna be out of there while your doing your thing. Thing is He kinda stays away for a while until He thinks it's safe to come back. I know it sounds funny the way I'm describing it.... but this is an analogy that I think is super simple to understand. <br />
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It's not until you sense, feel & understand the separation from God that we are prompted to repent. <br />
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What I do know is that when we fall God is waiting for us to recover with open arms. He desires healing wholeness and holiness. <br />
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When we fall down, we get back up again.. dust it off and keep on moving. You can do this family. If I can do it I know you canBluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-57198486714497597662011-05-04T13:22:00.000-07:002011-05-04T13:23:00.031-07:00Just Keepin It RealIf I'm keepin it real, it hasn't been an easy journey.... not even a desired one for me accept that I desire to please God more then I desire to please my flesh. Eventually I hope to be married and have sex as much as possible LOL.... I am proud of myself to small degree for my ability to abstain, since I could have sex at any given time if i so desire.... but thank God for self control. <br />
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I have been tempted on many occasions, I'm even tempted now, and have tempted someone else.... but eventually I come to my senses. ****whew! thank God!<br />
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Again it is not for any other reason but to respect the spirit of God that dwells within and to keep the commands of God. Much easier said then done.. but i'm fighting the good fight. <br />
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The schmeckle is calling often and I have to remind myself that the current momentary satisfaction will never lead to the desired end if i give in to the temptation.<br />
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So are you tempted right now?Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3001774672949148741.post-54860170070491688192011-04-22T20:27:00.000-07:002011-04-22T20:51:56.742-07:00Playing with FireYou know the saying "if you play with fire you will eventually get burned"? Couldn't be truer. Are you playing with fire in your attempt to abstain from sex? I know I have... and recently. I don't beat myself up about it, but I certainly kick myself after thanking God for my narrow escape on many occasions. The most recent occasion being when I allowed an ex boyfriend to come over my house "to visit"... (we remained friendly after our break up) It's funny how we remain naive to others intentions... I didn't think for a moment he came to "get some", I thought he came to say hello, talk a little, hang out etc..... no biggie. Then it happened, the conversation turned to old times... how he missed me, how I might have been the one that got away because he was too immature to see my value. then the hug goodbye.... You know that one? The one that brings back memories, fond ones, chemistry, old feelings, the ones you think are long gone (for me they really are). But I guess when you have been deprived of affection, contact, romance you get that feeling rising up in you, your body temperature rises, the temptation increases and you in that moment have a choice to make, will you give in or will you resist. <br />
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He tried to kiss me... then I knew it was gonna be trouble... Kisses for me are never just kisses, unless I give you one on the cheek. He made his attempt and I felt like Holyfield in a boxing match.... I bobbed and weaved trying to duck it.... He got the message.<br />
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I was tempted... wanted to kiss him to be honest, but not because I love him.... I love to kiss and it's something I miss. I briefly thought I might do it, thinking of course it can be just a kiss... a little make out session, but I knew HIM and I know ME. So in that brief moment, I made the choice to avoid the potential danger.<br />
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It's certainly not always easy, but it is what we should do. If we take those brief moments to think and reject the temptation, we can avoid some sticky situations that we often regret.<br />
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So if you don't wanna get burned, it's best you don't play with fire.Bluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845794629449810725noreply@blogger.com4