A soul tie is a spiritual connection between our soul and that of another person. Soul ties are important to address in sex addiction because they can hold us back from achieving complete victory over our addiction.
There are good soul ties and bad soul ties. Good soul ties are commonly created in marriage and healthy friendships (Malachi 2:15; Genesis 2:24, 1 Chronicles 12:17, Colossians 2:2). Bad soul ties are created through sinful relationships and/or activities. Examples of situations that could create bad soul ties:
- Sex sin: Sex unites people physically, emotionally and spiritually. If we have sex with people other than our spouse, we create soul ties that cause all kinds of problems (spiritual confusion, emotional confusion, sex addiction, compulsivity, obsession, etc.).
- Looking at sex images, memories, objects and fetishes: These activities can establish a soul tie with an evil spirit. An example of this is found in Hosea 4:17 when Ephraim became joined with his idols. A tie may not be established in every instance, but it is certainly possible. Example objects: a favorite porn depiction, a garment worn by a former lover, pictures of former lovers, a cherished sexual memory.
- Sexual abuse/molestation: This can result in soul ties between the perpetrator and the victim. If you have been involved in sexual abuse, please seek healing prayer and Christian counsel as you proceed in your journey to freedom.
- "Unhealthy" relationships: Examples include relationships characterized by manipulation, guilt, emotional abuse, co-dependency, unnatural affection, envy and/or lust.
How to know if you have a bad soul tie:
- Ask the Lord: Take a moment to ask God in prayer to show you if you have soul ties that need to be severed. If the Lord brings people to mind or you think there is a possibility of a soul tie, proceed to pray to cut the soul tie.
- Look at the fruit: A way to determine the nature of a soul tie is to examine its fruit (Matthew 7:16-18). Good soul ties will bear good fruit; examples being love, blessing, fidelity, loyalty, honor, righteousness, etc. The overall effect of the good soul tie will be to strengthen our emotional wholeness and our walk with God. Bad soul ties will bear bad fruit, examples being hatred, resentment, curses, manipulation, anger, strife, jealousy, control, bitterness, etc. The overall effect of bad soul ties will be to hold us back from enjoying our relationship with God and to keep us in bondage to whatever we struggle with.
A Strategic Prayer to break free from this bondage:
"Father God, I thank you for saving me from destruction. I praise you for sending Jesus to die for my sins. Please forgive me for my sins against you. Specifically, I confess that I ______________(details of the sin & names). I repent of that sin and renounce it now. Lord, please purify my heart from this sin, the memory of it and any associated fantasy I have entertained in my mind regarding it. In the name of Jesus Christ and by the power of his blood shed on the cross, I cut myself free from any soul ties that may have been established with _______ (name (s) or specific objects). I commit him/her/them to the care of Jesus Christ for him to do with as he wills. Satan, I rebuke you in all your works and ways. I rebuke any evil spirits that have a foothold in me. In the name of Jesus, I command you evil spirits to leave me and go directly to Jesus Christ. Father, please heal my soul of any wounds resulting from these soul ties. Please reintegrate any part of me that may have been detained through this/these soul ties and restore me to wholeness. I also ask that you will reintegrate any part of the person(s) I sinned with that has been detained in me, and restore them to wholeness. Thank you, Lord, for your healing power and your perfect love for me. May I glorify you with my life from this point forward. In Jesus' name, Amen."
Do you have any soul ties you need to be delivered from?
Tell me about some of your worst soul ties.
I'm proud of you pooky....obey the Lord and walk in your purpose.
ReplyDeleteThat was good commentary - thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteI have a question that maybe a little off topic. I used to be a Christian; not sure what to call myself these days. Anyway, what is your opinion on Christians who struggle with issues, in this case lets say sexual sin just to stay on course who go out of their way to testify in front of the Church, write books, give seminars about being set free from a life time of sexual bondage and promiscuity only to find themselves in a hole darker and deeper than ever before six months later ?
How do those of us on the outside desiring to come into Christ but struggling with what appears to be hypocrisy in the Church find understanding in this type of behavior ?
For example, I know a guy who said he would never violate a woman's body by committing sexual acts with her because her body emulates the temple of God. Now, months later he's screwing her on the regular.
You mentioned guiding our youth, however how can that be done we the Christian adults are not practicing what they preach. When everyday that talk about save the children and every other night he's *ucking her like she's a prostitute (no boundaries kinda sex)
I know once you repent that God forgives but is it that simple ? Can he get his dick sucked tonight and repent in morning and do this every night and then repent every morning claiming that he's only human. He once blamed her for it, said she has a dominating spirit of lust on her that causes everyone she encounters to succumb to her lustful desires. (man or woman) He even compared her to some whore woman in the bible.
At what point should he go back to the Church and admit that he's failed again instead of faking the funk every Sunday morning. At what point does he admit that he's more than just a friend to her and their friendship has become inappropriate? And if God brought them together it certainly wasn't to fornicate, so won't sexing block God's original intentions for them ? But yet, they continually make excuses to work together and be together all the time. Not to mention that he sexes other women as well from time to time but that doesn't count ??
Can we really be set free when we constantly lie to ourselves and others about what a situation really is ? Can a child molester write a kids book because of his love for children and say his personal life isn't relevant to his calling ?
I was out with some friends last night and this conversation came up. Can we blog about it for a second ?
@Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteFirst let me say it saddens me that you "used" to be a Christian. I'm not sure how once you have received "Salvation"..... accepted Jesus as Lord & Savior that you can renounce it. You will always be a child of God & your issue should be man not God. If you renounced Christianity because of man, then you missed it and we will talk about it, because it's a common issue in this faith we call Christianity.
Your points are valid & I would love to blog about it. I will start another post on the issues of hypocrisy & we can discuss it there so as not to get too far off subject & take away from the issue of soul ties for those who may be struggling.
Thanks. By the way, I haven't renounced Christianity I'm just not sure if I should call myself a Christian having so many doubts about things.
ReplyDeleteYet another blog topic, maybe ??
Well to be a "Christian" means that you believe in, subscribe to and follow the teaching of Christ. That you also believe that the Holy Bible is the inspired word of God by which we live & breath. Now our behavior should eventually conform as a result, but the issue you speak of is because for many it doesn't.
ReplyDeleteBut that's why God said to "Work Out" your salvation with fear & trembling. This is a journey.... none of us have arrived.
Some of us are doing better then others.. But ultimately if we truly desire to emulate the characteristics of our Creator, then we are to display the same amount of love, patience, grace & understanding that God displays for us during our evolution & transformation towards others who are "family" our brothers & sisters. We don't condone, but we don't condemn either.
My Christian friends don't want to be judged, however they JUDGE more than my friends who are not Christians and more then the ones who are Christians BUT you'd never know unless you ask them because most of the time their actions speak other wise.
ReplyDeleteIt's like they judge me for having a drunkin' brawl but don't want to be judged when I find out their sexin' on the regular, with a FEW folks while testifying that they have been set free. *my face is twisted*
And when I bring it to their attention what do they say ? They quote scriptures " he who hasn't sinned cast the first stone. " :-) One can't help but laugh at the church today.
Church folks only seem to be going through the motions. I personally am working on my OWN relationship with God WITHOUT the church. (At least during this season)
@Anonymous, working on your own relationship with God is exactly what you should be doing. What other people do, should be of little consequence.
ReplyDeleteThey have to deal with God & God will deal with them.
Personally I think few understand that Christianity is not about being perfect.
You NEVER stop sinning.
Those that like to quote scripture when you confront them are being defensive of course, so would you. But guaranteed they will think about it later.
As for your friends who are not Christian who judge less, I don't believe that for a second, you just don't hold them to the same standard... no one ever does.
Everyone has a tendency to be judgmental at times no matter who they are & hypocricy is not exclusive to the Christians, we just get pointed out more then others.
We are held to a higher standard, one we often can't and don't meet, but should.
Thing is I'm so glad I serve a God that is gracious, merciful, kind, loving who helps me through all these things.
I would rather do it with Him then without Him.
If Christians should be held to a higher standard, why then do you say it is one they "often" CAN'T meet ?
ReplyDeleteDid you perhaps mean it's a standard they won't meet BECAUSE they serve a God that is gracious, merciful, kind, loving etc.
What's that song Donnie McClurkin sings " we fall down BUT we get up"
Understanding that NO ONE is perfect do you feel as if some Christians don't strive for it (perfection as in more Christ like) simply because they believe it's something they can never obtain ? In addition to knowing that they will be forgiven anyway.
We should be held to a higher standard but by ourselves not others. Who can meet the standard that the world sets?
ReplyDeleteWe often can't meet it not because of we won't meet it, but because we fail to truly understand this walk.
Indeed some Christians don't strive for perfection & perhaps it is because they feel they can't obtain it.
If for one don't strive for perfection, I gave it up a long time ago. I do however strive for excellence which changed my perspective.
Those who you see complacent in their walk with God lack internal motivation or perhaps never really gave their lives fully to begin with.
Some people just go through the motions in their walk with God, others go on to do His will & purpose as intended.
Of course this conversation is getting way off the course of soul ties.....
How about we talk about those?
LOl ... I guess we are off track. But I figured it was ok since no one else was chiming in on the said topic.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing.
Today it was revealed to me that I have "tied" myself to my friend and today I must cut that soul tie so that I will move on and receive all that God has for me. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteWhat a thoughtful outline of an important subject. Thank you for spelling it out so well. I hope many read this.
ReplyDelete@Tom, thank you. I hope many read it as well. God cares so much about us and wants us to be free.
ReplyDeleteI learned that soul ties can occur with or without sex. My question is how is it so easy for a man to severe his souls ties from a woman and start a new relationship with another woman, yet somewhat difficult for the woman to severe her ties with a man? And why are women told this in reference to severing soul ties: if you want to get over a man, get up under another one? Some Christian women are doing this too.
ReplyDeletewhat do you do if your sex drive is high and your spouse knew fom the begining.now she acts like it,s not important and you are crying out to her,because she doesn,t value that part of the relationship like before. Help!
ReplyDeleteAnonymous,
ReplyDeleteThat's tuff..... I feel for you and I assume your male since you said "she" acts like it's not important. I hear this a lot from men actually. Bottom line is much prayer is needed and therapy/counseling to get to the root of the issue. Why is she not concerned, why is she not sexually attentive, why is she not seeming to care that your high drive needs to be addressed, is your drive TOOOOOOO high? Are ther issue you need to address that may be rooted in sexual addiction? Prayer and counseling is the wisdom I can share. A lot of women after having children lose their sex drive, hormonal imbalance, depression, poor diet, lack of excercise etc... all affect these things along with the emotional tie that you share... are you stimulating her mentally to get the juices flowing? so much needs to be addressed and without counseling you won't get to the root of it. The intimacy between husband and wife is of great value & the bible tells us our body is no longer our own when we marry, so we must take the needs of our partner into consideration. God will have to deal with her... so submitt your petition and hold her up... love her and find out what is going on. Not easy.... :*(
In the process of severing a soul tie with a man other than my husband...it's amazing how I really never heard of it put like this. I always heard it being called a bond. Unfortunately, my relationship with my husband began as an affair, he was married when we met. Seven years & 2 kids later he divorced. When my second child was 9mos. Old he became intimate with a close female friend, it took another 3 years before we were married. I remained faithful in the relationship/marriage which of course became very rocky, arguments, no trust, no respect and plenty of division. Now 21yrs later and I had taken all I could. Into my life walks the other man who befriended me. We talked on the phone, not having seen each other in person, until 2mos later. Daily conversations 3 or 4 times a day lasted for 1year, then it happened!! It only happened once, but I believe a strong soul tie was created simply by all of the communication that took place. I'm not going to lie, it's been a real difficult process in breaking the tie, but I know it's the right thing to do!!
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